45th Edition: Main Character Energy 👩🎤
Manifesting from a place of alignment
Happy Wednesday, I hope you’re having a wonder-full week.
When you move away from your home city, the question you visit most becomes “where do I want to settle?”
Is it the new place, or the newest of the new places for those of us who have made multiple moves? Is it where you came from originally or a place you have yet to go?
The question can trap you in an emotional hamster wheel when you try to think through it—which is why you need to feel your way through it instead. That’s where intuition comes in.
Think of the last time you failed to make something work despite extreme efforts. Maybe it was a job, a relationship, or a business idea. How did you feel when you realized it was time to call “time of death” on your pursuit?
I’ll venture not great. Suddenly, the picture you had of the future dissolves—like the reverse effect of a Polaroid. You’re left with the void of a hope dashed or a dream that fades.
But what if you embraced those dark empty spaces as blank canvases to create from?
Suddenly, the future looks a lot brighter, n'est-ce pas?
Main Character Energy
The best way to guarantee a bright future is to show up in your life with main character energy—and that means getting in alignment with your desires.
The challenge is sometimes we don’t know what we desire. We may think we know. We may convince ourselves we know. But there are two concepts that sway the jury on whether we are guilty of deceiving ourselves.
Serendipity V. Tower Moments
The first concept is serendipity. Think of the last time you felt as though “the stars were aligning” after you made an important decision in your life. Maybe it was leaving a job, moving to a new city, starting a new relationship—whatever. As if by magic, doors were opening and rewards were affirming you had made the right choice.
Now, let’s shift gears by delving into what a tarot-reader friend of mine calls “tower moments.” Tower moments are the Anti-Christ of serendipity.
Think of a time when you were hell-bent on sustaining something—a job, a business venture, or a relationship—but no matter how much you laboured to keep it going, you were hit with so many grenades that you began to sense a universal force working against you. Tower moments represent the idea that when something that no longer serves you needs to be stripped away to create space for something new—but you’re unwilling to sever the ties—the universe will declare “time’s up” and tear it down with the force of a tower collapsing. And potentially leave you rummaging through debris in the aftermath wondering, what the hell happened?
When I think about the six years I pondered the question “where do I want to settle?” while living overseas, I realize that serendipity and “tower moments” guided me back to Montreal.
My Experience With Tower Moments
For starters, I had decided to stay in Australia for at least a couple more years after my company offered to sponsor me for a new visa. It seemed like a great opportunity, and despite the 25-hour flight distance, my family was excited to visit at some point. But fast forward a few weeks and after several grenades signalling I might not be headed down the right path, the government hit me with the knockout punch.
My job type was eliminated from the sponsorship options and I had no other options to stay in the country. I remember standing in Hyde Park post-run-around-the-Opera-House with my fitness group when I got the call from my boss. She cried as she spoke, and I cried as I listened—all the while the sun went down marking the end of the day and the end of a road for me. It certainly constituted a “tower moment.”
The interesting and unexpected twist? A few weeks later, I landed my dream job in Paris. Maybe it was fate—but I don’t think things would’ve panned out so dreamily had I not embraced the dark empty space I felt in my career trajectory as a blank canvas to create from.
I could have wallowed in self-pity about not being able to continue my professional journey with my amazing team, and leaving my life in Sydney behind. But instead, I reminded myself that I’m the main character in my life and that means there’s always a new chapter to be written. So I channelled my intuition and realized I still wanted to chase my dream of living in Paris. I did some research, found a few job prospects, and eventually, a cold email I sent to a Manager at Ubisoft via LinkedIn led to the perfect job opportunity.
My Experience With Serendipity
By contrast, after a magical couple of years in Paris, I began sensing an inexplicable gut feeling it was time to come back to Montreal. And as I wondered why, serendipity came into play. I found out one of my sisters was expecting her first child—an arrival I couldn’t bear missing—and then a random contact lead to a job offer in Montreal in the exact field I was hoping to switch into.
My intuition that it was time to make the move became stronger as more and more “signs” presented themselves, and it occurred to me that sometimes we can sense things before we can make sense of them. Weird but cool, right?
Many of you reading this are chasing your dreams—building a business, starting or expanding your family, getting in the best shape of your life, and so on. You’re shaping your story day by day. I’m in it with you. I know how hard it is to be the writer, editor, actor, and audience simultaneously. But the main character always triumphs, don’t they?
When you hit rejection or failure, it’s healthy to mourn your losses. But remember to tap into your intuition to turn those voids into canvases you can create from.
You can’t control or force the outcomes you want. But as long as you keep shaping your story and showing up with main character energy, you’ll achieve your dreams.
Until then, be proud of yourself. I’m proud of you.
Today’s Teaching Tip
As many of us lean into August’s restful nature, it’s inevitable we look forward to new courses—or cohorts—kicking off in September. With that in mind, here’s a tip to help you design engaging online sessions, workshops, and presentations.
🔗 Feel free to comment in the replies with tips of your own.
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Have a wonder-full week,
P.S. Sorry today’s edition ran longer than usual. Clearly, it’s a topic I resonate with so feel free to hit me with replies detailing the serendipity or tower moments that have guided you to where you are.
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